Personalities. And the reason for this desire is obvious. After all, being courageous individuals, we can move mountains, achieve the impossible, take our lives to a qualitatively new level, live a rich life, and so on, the list can be endless. I think you yourself understand perfectly well what new horizons will open before you when you you will become a brave person. But becoming brave is not an easy task. After all, in order to become brave, you first have to constantly and. Therefore, in this article I will talk about ways that will simplify the process of becoming a brave person.
You just need to familiarize yourself with them, put them into practice and then you are guaranteed to become brave.
The first and most banal advice I will give you is a psychological attitude. The psychological or mental attitude should not be underestimated. This is where it all begins. One famous writer named Mason John said: “Your day will be exactly the same as the tips of your lips.”. Psychologists have proven that 90% of the results lie in the mental attitude, and the remaining 10% are skills and abilities. So don’t underestimate words and the RIGHT ATTITUDE. I know that many of us, and sometimes even me, think that this is complete nonsense, and nothing depends on the psychological mood. But in vain! To become brave, you will have to program yourself in advance for a positive outcome.
I’ll even give an example on this matter. Let's say two work colleagues - Petya and Vanya - ask their boss for a salary increase. Petya is determined to get an increase, since he has a reason - his second son was born and he now needs money. In addition, he knows very well that he is a good worker and his boss treats him well and will understand him. Petya already clearly knows what he will say and how he will behave so that the negotiations end in his favor. Petya says to himself: "I will succeed!!!", “I am worthy of this!!!”, "I will do it!!!". I’ll say right away that Petya is nervous before the conversation. It's quite normal!!!
Now let's talk about Van. Vanya is an insecure person who constantly doubts something, and who is terrified of looking like a fool in the eyes of other people. However, looking at Petya, he also thinks that he should try his hand. But he scrolls through negative scenarios in his head, which makes him feel sick. He says to himself: “Here, he’ll fire me for this request, or he’ll laugh at me, or he’ll ignore me altogether. Or maybe he’ll create a scandal and lose his salary for a month.”.
What do you think will happen to the brave and confident Petya? There are several options. He will either receive a raise, or will receive it if he fulfills the requirements of his boss, or will not receive it this time, but will receive it next time.
What will happen to Vanya? There are also several options. But I think 75% that he will abandon this idea. , which he brought upon himself, will devour him. The remaining 25% - he will not succeed. If you have any of your own options about Vanya, write in the comments.
I hope from this example you understand how powerful a psychological attitude is. However, in order to become brave- one attitude is not enough.
The second piece of advice that will help you become brave is to trust yourself. I know that it is very difficult to just believe in yourself after 42 failed attempts. Let me break down this advice. To believe in yourself, you must forget about how other people evaluate you. You must stop judging yourself. When you begin to evaluate yourself, when you begin to delve into the past and remember your own, when you begin to listen to other people's advice, you begin to create doubts. Doubts are not characteristic of a brave person, but faith is the absence of doubts. So start believing in yourself. If it worked for someone, it will work for you too. You are no worse than others. Everything is in yours and only in your hands.
The next piece of advice for becoming bolder is to face your fears as often as possible. A brave person is not one who is not afraid of anything, a brave person is one who... I fully understand that this advice is the most difficult to use. Just understand that if you avoid your fears, you will never become brave. Fear disappears when you overcome it several times.
I'll give you my example. I'm afraid to fly on an airplane. Every time I take off, my body becomes weak. I look at the flight attendants and don’t understand how they can stand it. After arriving, I hugged the earth and swore to myself that I would never fly again, and every time I broke this oath. I understand perfectly well that in order for me to have a great rest, I need to be in another country (for example, in Turkey or Egypt). And without an airplane it is impossible to do this. And so, every summer I flew to another country with my fear. After ten flights my fear subsided, and after sixteen flights my fear disappeared. I realized that nothing bad would happen to me. In addition, I heard on TV that the planes and trains with which accidents occurred were filled to a maximum of 60%. And if I see that the plane is completely full, then I can sleep peacefully!!!
I overcame my fear, which means became bolder than before. As Sylvester told Stallone: “Everyone has fears and when we overcome them, we become courageous.”. So if you really want to become brave, don't avoid your fears, but overcome them.
The fourth tip is to accept defeat. Many people are afraid to do anything because they are afraid of making a mistake. Personally, I have learned to accept defeat. Before I do anything, I replay the failure in my head several times. When I do this, I feel like crap. After replaying the negative scenario several times, I feel like I have nothing to fear. Fear seems to be letting go of me. Then I do the opposite - I tune in to a positive outcome, and then just . This combination is very effective, since you accept defeat in advance.
The fifth tip to become brave is to get to know each other and communicate more. You are probably thinking how this advice can help you. In fact, many people are afraid to meet people. Man is designed in such a way that he is always afraid of the unknown. Maybe you like a specific person and want to talk to him, but you don’t have the courage to approach him first or you don’t have the courage to be the first one. This is where you have a chance to show courage. I will not describe this advice, since I wrote about communication in an article - I will only say one thing, communication allows you to fear, and this makes you bolder.
The sixth tip is to praise yourself. If you overcame your fear and did something that you haven’t dared for so long, be sure to praise yourself to consolidate your victory in your memory. After several victories, you will feel bolder, more confident, and your... Most people beat themselves up for failures and never praise themselves for victories. Therefore, uncertainty grows and courage disappears. Always praise yourself and celebrate your victories.
The seventh tip is to try something new as often as possible. Novelty develops courage, as it requires. For example, you decide to go to a club. You have never gone to clubs before, and therefore anxiety arises at the mere thought of going to a club. But there will still be strangers there, and you never know what’s on their mind!!! This is where your chance to show courage comes. After several trips to the club, you will become easier to relate to this. At first it will be scary - then it will be normal. Trying something new makes you bolder. And now you know why!!!
The eighth and final tip is to take risks. It’s better to do it and fail than not to do it at all. Any mistake is your experience from which you can benefit. Doing nothing will not help you become braver. And you yourself know that people who don’t take risks don’t drink champagne. TAKE RISKS!!!
That's it for the article “How to become brave?” has come to an end. If you have your own tips, write them in the comments or on. Let's discuss this together!!!
And remember courage is the one who acts against his fear. This is the only way to become a truly brave person.
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Very often we hear calls to be decisive, to be brave. In principle, we understand what is expected of us, but in fact we do not fully understand what exactly this means. We understand that a little courage would not hurt us at certain moments in our lives, but why do we need to be decisive and courageous in general. After all, for the majority, determination and courage are forever equated with risk, often unjustified.
First, let's figure out what kind of animals Decisiveness and Courage are.
Decisiveness is a person’s ability to independently make decisions and take actions in support of these decisions. One way or another, we all make decisions, but a person with decisiveness makes them faster than others. His determination gives him the strength to take control of future events in his life. Determination, like armor, protects a person from uncertainty and the unknown of the future.
A person with decisiveness is able to begin to act immediately, immediately after making a decision. And this does not always mean that the decision is correct or he knows what to do, no, or he does not doubt and is not afraid. A decisive person is able to quickly make a decision in order to begin to act quickly and get the first results of these actions to analyze further decisions. While others are still thinking about making a decision, modeling possible developments of events, a decisive person already has specific, non-theoretical knowledge. Even if everything is not going smoothly there, he moves on to the next step and is faced with making the next decision.
Courage is a person's ability to overcome his fear. It should be noted here that everyone experiences fear. Only fools are not afraid. And courage proves this when a person commits acts and actions, going despite his fear, overcoming it, and not suppressing it. Otherwise, he turns into a fool who denies fear rather than cooperates with it. Suppression or denial does not get rid of fear, but only makes it uncontrollable and unpredictable; it is unknown at what moment it will jump out and take its toll, but it will. Courage allows a person to be stronger than his fears. Only a brave person is able to discern additional information behind fear and accept it as an ally.
Since ancient times, the main task of our brain has been to preserve our lives, our safety and our offspring. And fear was an integral part of successful survival. All unusual sounds, suspicious herbs, flowers could carry mortal danger. If ancient man had ignored the danger, we simply would not exist. Courage was not a choice, but a necessity for survival purposes (getting food, protecting yourself from wild animals).
In the modern world, our lives and security in general are not threatened. There are no wild animals, food is sold in the store, ready to eat. To show or not to show determination and courage is our choice, but it is not a necessity, I mean that there is no strict motivation for survival. Today we strive to improve the quality of our life, improve the material component, enjoy tasty, beautiful and high-quality food, comfort, surround ourselves with beautiful things and views, take care of our health, prolonging life.
Therefore, courage and determination are especially in demand in the modern world. We admire and envy those who possess these qualities or even simply perform bold, decisive actions. People like these show us that there is more to life than mere survival.
Despite the fact that determination and courage seem to be similar qualities, both of them are needed to achieve goals, to make bold and ambitious decisions. How often does it happen that a person makes a decision, is confident in it, wants to implement it, his imagination is already painting him pictures of a wonderful, successful future, and now he is ready to take the first steps to support the decision with specific actions, when suddenly... fears appear on the horizon .
Determination allows a person to make a final decision, but, as often happens, even the most firm decision cannot withstand the strength and power of our fears, apprehensions and worries.
And overcoming fears requires courage. The courage to look them in the face, remembering that a firm decision has already been made and there is nowhere to retreat (wild animals are behind). Courage allows a person to act when afraid. Act taking into account not only the bright and colorful future, but also the experience of the past. With an understanding of possible difficulties, in order to prepare for them, ambiguities, in order to clarify them for yourself in advance. Fear draws attention to the “fine” aspects of the plan, helping to strengthen them.
To one degree or another, determination and courage are inherent in the character of every person. If you have ever decided to start living on Monday or quit smoking, you are familiar with the feeling of a determined person, well, everyone who has at least once been at an interview or passed an exam and pulled a ticket is familiar with courage. And it doesn’t matter how developed these qualities are in you, because first of all they are qualities, which means they can be developed, strengthened and strengthened, “pumped up” like muscles, if you want.
And I will tell you how to do this in the next article.
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We were all taught from childhood that “the city takes courage” through the example of fairy tales about heroes and adventure novels. But not all fairy tales explain how the characters managed to cultivate willpower and courage. It’s as if they were born brave and determined! In fact, this is how it was: the author’s imagination is free to endow fictional characters with any qualities. But what should we, ordinary people, do without innate valor and readiness for exploits 24 hours a day?
You have to cultivate self-confidence - day after day, through “I can’t” and “I don’t want” to go through victory over oneself, one’s own doubts and fears. Fortunately or unfortunately, this problem is so common that psychologists have already managed to study it and develop a number of recommendations on how to become bolder and more decisive. Therefore, on the path to fearlessness, you do not have to reinvent the wheel - you can use proven techniques. And this will not be a sign of cowardice - rather, it will maintain a balance between courage and common sense.
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At the same time, we generalize all the negative emotions that we experience in these and similar situations and conventionally call it fear. And then, just as automatically, we mentally (and sometimes out loud) begin to reproach ourselves for our cowardice. But in fact, the range of feelings that a person experiences before making (or not making) any decision is much wider. In order to distinguish between them, you need to come to your senses and realize your state, and then analyze it. Unfortunately, as a rule, there is no time and/or desire for this. But if we ourselves were more attentive to our sensations, we would learn to distinguish between them without much effort. In addition to a deeper understanding of oneself, this makes it possible to understand exactly what signals the subconscious gives us. But it “knows” much more than us, that is, the conscious part of our personality. In his arsenal of precautions and warnings, the following emotional tools are stored and regularly used:
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So, you're tired of turning down opportunities, wasting your dreams of success, and being bored alone. And this is very good, because it is the first step towards a new life in which you will be bolder, more determined and probably happier than you are today. But it won't come tomorrow. Or rather, it will come the sooner the more effort you put into it. But you will have to try. But isn't it worth it to become the person you want to be: confident, strong-willed, and even a little cocky? Moreover, working on yourself is one of the most rewarding types of work, because its result not only depends on you, but also completely belongs to you. Therefore, without delay, start making small but important victories over yourself, day by day gradually mastering the following useful skills:
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Developing CourageControl your fear. To become brave, you need to overcome your fears. Fear is a response to those situations in which your brain decides whether to fight or flee. At the same time, the brain begins to release the stress hormone cortisol into the nervous system, which puts the body under extreme tension. Fearfulness is a learned behavior based on body chemistry and reinforced by the environment that teaches a person to be afraid. The ability to overcome your fears and leave them behind comes down to proper training of thinking.
Get rid of indecision. The longer your brain tries to justify your cowardice, the more time you will spend panicking about hypothetical negative outcomes of the situation. If you need to catch a spider, jump out of a plane, ask someone out on a date, do it without hesitation, provided that you really intend to do it.
Be bold when asking someone out. When you ask someone out on a date, it's best to be direct, even if you're a little scared to be so open. Practice your words in advance. If possible, talk to your crush in private. Think about how good it would be to get consent. Isn't that the only reason it's worth the risk?
Show courage when talking to your boss. Sometimes it’s scary to talk to your boss, especially if there are problems at work, and it’s also very uncomfortable to start conversations about finances. However, if you try to frame the conversation as a discussion rather than a confrontation, you can turn things around the way you want.
Show courage in standing up to bullying. If you are dealing with bullying, you need to project courage and confidence. This way you will deceive yourself (and others) by pretending that you are not afraid of anything. People who bully others like to be feared, so don't give them that pleasure. Act with confidence (even if you are not particularly confident).
Part 3
Overcoming your own fearsIdentify your fears. What exactly are you afraid of? Before you can begin to overcome fear and take courageous actions, you need to understand what scares you? People can be afraid of many things, such as the following:
Acknowledge your fears. After identifying your fears, you should not try to hide them somewhere deeper; you should not avoid them. It is unwise to convince yourself that you are not afraid, otherwise you will not be able to overcome your fear as quickly as possible. Instead, try to acknowledge that you have fears so that you can then overcome them in a productive way.
Try desensitizing yourself gradually. This technique allows you to slowly but with increasing confidence approach what you are afraid of.
Make an attempt to directly confront the fear. This method is also called the "immersion" method. Force yourself into the situation you fear and allow yourself to fully feel the fear. Feel it pulsating inside, watch it, but don't let it overcome you. You may find it helpful to start thinking about yourself in the third person, like this: “He seems really scared right now.”